Thursday, July 29, 2010

Tolson 4 TEARS Reviews "To Be Told: Know Your Story..."

Dan B. Allender, Ph.D, is a professor of counseling, a therapist, and a public speaker, seminar leader, and a “reflection and recovery” retreat facilitator. He is also associated with the Mars Hill Graduate School, in Seattle, Washington. Visit his website at
Dr. Allender writes with the premise of the reader’s belief in God. He uses Bible versus to reinforce a point, such as: “You meant evil against me, but God meant it for good.”
To Be Told is constructed in four parts: Your Name and Your Story; Reading Your Story; Writing Your Story; and Multiplying Your Story. One of the themes throughout each part is that of authoring your own life with the guidance of God. Dr. Allender says that God is not only your Authority, but also your Author. Another theme is that your story must be told to offer you insight, as well as to provide enlightenment for others. Allender says, “We are to read our past to gain a greater sense of how to write our life in the present.”
To Be Told is a thought-provoking book that is also a call to personal action. While reading the concepts in To Be Told, it’s difficult to not answer the questions Allender asks, including “Facing the Tragedy That Shapes You.” Allender encourages the reader/writer to be an authentic source of one’s own story. He shares his story so that the reader feels comfortable revealing his/her truth, rather than relying on the influences of others. Allender is adamant about refusing others the ability to state your past and shape your present.
At the end of each chapter, there are questions that help the reader/writer explore specifics of his/her story. (There is a To Be Told companion workbook.) Be prepared to dig deep inside to determine your life’s theme and your calling. Dr. Allender says, “We don’t find our calling; it finds us.”
This book is good for those who want to write their story, regardless of the aim to publish. It’s recommended as a tool for personal and spiritual growth. 

(Review completed by Lynn C. Tolson, author of Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story)

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